Proverbs 24:30-34
This set of verses strongly encourages us to be
diligent. This past week at Freedom, we
applied Proverbs 24:30-34 to so much more than keeping up our yards. The
neglect of any area of our life results in ruin.
Let’s talk about how “poverty will come on you like a thief
and scarcity like an armed man” when we neglect the important things in our
lives in exchange for the easy way. I’ll go first…
Historically, I have been extremely non-confrontational and
tended to choose the path of least resistance. So when things were okay, I was
good with okay. I didn’t feel much pressure to make them great. After all,
moving toward greatness was hard and it could rock the boat and make things
really complicated.
There are many examples in my life of this: relationships,
projects, career-related things, etc. I have to fight really hard against this
tendency in my life in order to move things that are simply good to great.
The matriarch of my family was the glue that held us all
together. She was our “relationship facilitator.” If there was something I
needed to talk to my other family members about, she would say, “Don’t worry
about it. I’ll handle it.” I very rarely needed to have any conversation – let alone important ones that define
relationships – with any of them because she’d do it for me.
Then one day, when I was 32, she was gone. Within a matter
of weeks, I realized that scarcity and poverty abounded because I had spent
years sleeping and slumbering when it came to various family relationships. Weeds
had overtaken the vineyard and I didn’t know how to be a
daughter/sister/niece/granddaughter without my mother to facilitate. The walls
were in disrepair specifically regarding one particular relationship. I felt
helpless. And eventually I felt angry. I didn’t even know where to begin.
So I chose not to begin at all. There was a stretch of time
that I was so unhappy that the awkward tension in the room was palpable when I
was with the person. I was miserable and unpleasant and it made for very
awkward family birthday parties and holidays.
I couldn’t stand it anymore. At age 36, I had to make a decision: Either
fester in resentment for the rest of my life or begin pulling weeds and create
the relationship that I wanted. The pain of staying the same had finally become
more difficult than the pain of changing.
So, little by little, I made steps toward fixing the
disrepair. Some of the weeds were harder to pull than others. The difficult weeds
included altering my unrealistic expectations, choosing not to be stubborn, and
adjusting the perpetual “thirteen year old girl attitude” I seemed to be stuck
in. But the actual rebuilding of the wall was remarkably easier than I
anticipated! I began making regular phone calls when I didn’t want to, sending
texts regarding times of baseball games and band concerts in spite of what I
thought the answer would be, having difficult conversations even though I knew I’d
cry, and scheduling time together to just hang out.
The relationship is far from perfect. I still have some
things that I need to decide what I’m going to do about. But I’m tending to the
vineyard of our relationship more diligently now. And the difficulty of the
hard work of rebuilding serves as a vivid reminder to be careful not to not let
this happen again in the other areas of my life.
Now it’s your turn: What little weeds can you pull today in
an effort to begin changing the areas of your life that have gotten to a place
of scarcity and poverty? I’ll be praying that the Lord will give you the
strength to make the necessary steps toward weeding and rebuilding this week!
Written by: Jaime Hlavin
Edited by: Tamara Sturdivant